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Old 12-15-2011, 07:53 AM
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Thumper
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There is no perfect time to leave. IME waiting for the perfect time is a way to stay paralized and it made everything so much worse on so many levels.

You have your date. Go, just go. Give yourself the gift of not living together again for at least 6mos. In hindsight I wish I'd have went no contact right off the bat. I had to have some contact for the kids but wish I'd have done only email and only replied to just those things. The emotional manipulation can get insane. If he wants to talk I'd insist on doing it in a therapists office. Cheaper then a lawyer. I filed for divorce and wish I'd have just had everything go through a lawyer even if it cost me a fortune. We did meet in a therapists office and that was OK but wish I'd have went no contact the rest of the time.

Also - get yourself a therapist that specializes in addictions and go on your own. A good one is worth their weight in gold during this time.

SR was also really helpful.
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