Hello OBPuggs:
I agree with Cynical ONe = he's right where he needs to be, but I also realize it's not easy to watch.
I only speak from experience of as a Mother, not wanting to watch her adult children go through any pains of the consequences they brought upon themselves, especially when they are trying to get their life together.
For 10 years I have tried to hold up my 4 ACs so that they wouldn't "go down the wrong road". It has not helped one iota.
Big Hugg to you and your family.