My bf is also an A, and we have a child together, he's just over a year now. I am in a similar situation to yours, my bf has recently decided to get into some sort of recovery...
I also grew up with an alcoholic father and refuse to raise my child in the home of an addict who is in denial and causes harm. I was just saying tonight to someone that I feel like not only do I have to worry about raising my son correctly, I have to protect him from the negative effects of his father's addiction. I'm ready and willing to do that though.
I also attend counseling and have for several years. As helpful as that was, Al-Anon was helpful in an entirely different way. I strongly suggest going. I found that the people there understood me, my past, my present, and I learned so much about myself, alcoholism, and how I could control myself....the skills I gain there are immeasurable.