"Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God." (Big Book, 1st ed.)
In your case, husband or no husband -- but basically, it seems to me that your focus is turned in the wrong direction. Your feelings do count, and so do your husband's, but as long as you're focused on either, I think your recovery will suffer. Do what you have to do to stay sober, regardless of how supported or alone you feel. The Big Book also talks about how even justified anger is a luxury that the alcoholic cannot afford. I don't mean to sound preachy, but please don't let this situation derail your recovery.
--Fenris.