Originally Posted by
athomewaiting 
but how do you get them out of it, the cravings, how do you deal with it.
ive tried to change the subject, not say nothing at all and leave her alone which just resulted in her getting it later in the day, lets go for a walk, if i suggested a meeting she would get mad, so what do you do?
You cannot fix this or her. There's nothing you can do to keep her off the junk just as there is nothing you can do to cause her to relapse. Your are not that powerful. None of us are. If our love and caring could cure addiction, none of us would be here.
Alanon can help you manage your own codependency. You can also read all the stickeys at the top of this forum page to get a better sense of addiction and the flip side, codependency.