i am sick of people telling me that i have a problem when HE is the one with the problem.
My dad eventually found recovery and got sober and had a remarkable change in his life for the last 20 years of his life. My mom- who always maintained that the only "problem" was my father's drinking, never changed, never accepted help or made an effort to look at herself. Her codependency continues to this day in all her relationships, including her active enabling of my alcoholic brothers. It's hard to have an authentic relationship with her....
Peace,
B