Does anyone know of any coping mechanisms? Other than finishing that bottle of wine?????????
Nightly Al Anon meetings that you MUST attend? An appointment to have hot needles stuck in your eyes? LOL, maybe it's time to talk turkey with her and be straight up when she says something that makes you uncomfortable. And ignore the innuendo and stink eye. And then just do what you are going to do (smoke, drink, whatever) and let it go. It's YOUR life. What do you have to lose?
My AH's mother triggers me, too. She means well but she can really get under my skin at times. I'm trying to be more direct with her, direct but kind.