Maybe offer to pay for a hotel room for her?!?!
Other than that... (as my sponsor always says)... I get what I ask for. When I offer to do something for somebody - I have to let go of my expectations for the outcome. If I'm doing something for somebody that they can and should do for themselves... it's enabling. If I do it to spare them, and it ends up hurting me... I really need to start becoming more aware and make better decisions to honor me!
I can't control other people... but I can control the amount of time I spend with them
Thanks for letting me share!
Shannon