Welcome,
There is a pattern here, you gravitate to alcoholics & addicts. You are making bad choices. 50% of all children raised in the home of an addict either become one as an adult, or marry one. Children of addicts have inherited the gene that predisposes them to addictive behavior. That is enough of a burden to overcome, let alone being exposed to an addict, day in and day out.
Until you work on yourself and learn how to make healthly choices nothing will change. Are
you attending Naranon meetings? Have you read Codependent No More? If not, I would suggest that you do both. Also read all the stickies at the top of this page.
His recovery is up to him and yours is up to you. Work on you, if you do you will change and it will have a positive impact on the children.
Keep posting, keep reading others posts, it will help.