i get al kinds of love around here! but the tough love is good too. i have been ridinghte fence at best on this issue. usually i am deep into the contact side. i get up to the fence. i but my fingers through the chain links, get the tip of one foot there too, and i hang on there. sometimes i lift myself up enough to see the no contact side, but i hop back down and stay where i am. last year tough love may not have worked on me, but i think this is about the time a kick now and then helps me stay in the right direction.
hello-kitty and many others have been saying no contact for a long long time.