My A was drinking and doing hardcore drugs when I met him. But heck, we were in college and so was everyone else (well, except for the hardcore drugs). Funny thing is I didn't drink or do the drugs but I was always there when everyone else was so I could "keep them out of trouble" ----HA!
I look back and think, "why did I put myself in those situations?????" I could of lost everything by allowing those things in my home, car, presence.....
He eventually stopped the hardcore drugs and I thought "well, he'll eventually stop the drinking too" ---- HA!!!!!
I spent TEN YEARS trying to control the situation so he wouldn't need to drink and I then I MARRIED him, now I know better and we are separated.