In one word, yes.
It's taken me three years to finally admit this to myself and to others that I knew this going in, I saw the red flags, but carried on full speed ahead, consequences be damned.At the time, I had just come out of a bad marriage, was in no shape for any kind of relationship and met him on-line-things led to things, spent time with him, denial and co-dependency kicked in and the rest is history.
What I gained from the relationship was finding Al-Anon, the best thing for me - between meetings, literature, a wonderful sponsor, some very probing 4th step work, I found the me that got lost in the shuffle of the relationship, my marriage and some family issues that got mixed up an all of it. The one thing that I found is liking (and not being scared) being on my own - struggling, yes, but a lot healthier than I was at this point three years ago.