Yes, he was but I was in heavy denial. I thought he was just having fun with his friends, and that surely he would stop once we got married and settled down. I actually can remember when I finally came out of denial, and began to think maybe he is an alcoholic. This was a few years into our marriage, and two kids later. There was an alcohol counseling center down the street from us. I would walk by it many times, and one day I finally got the courage to walk inside. I went inside and talked to the people. AH had an upcoming dui charge due in court. The counselor there talked to the judge and asked for court ordered rehab instead of jail. I ended up receiving counseling too. I think God really had a hand in this because within that same time my mother died of cancer. It was a very hard time in my life, and I dont think I would have handled it the same if I hadn't had a counselor to talk to at the time.