My first husband drank when we first met but then so did I. We were in our early 20s. He had a reckless driving record and all kinds of tickets, but I figured I could have easily had them too, just never got caught. As we had kids, got older, my drinking subsided a lot, but his seemed to keep up. DUI's, etc. Worked second shift and went to bars afterwards. I stayed cuz I wanted to keep family together. Took 13 yrs before I left. It is sad but, he is worse now, and it has been over 12 yrs.