I met my XAGF in a bar. We were young so I thought drinking was not an issue. At the time I didn't know anyone that was a alcoholic so I didn't know much about the disease. I'm a few years older then her so in the beginning if someone or myself commented on her drinking her response was, what where you doing at 22? At the time I would think to myself, I guess she is right, when I was 22 I was drinking here and there. As she got older her excuses changed, I worked hard this week I can have a drink. As time went on things progress more and more. I did drink with her for most of our relationship, it wasn't until the last 4 months of our relationship that I realized that her problem was real, at that point I stopped drinking with her, but still enabled. I do feel guilty for joining her with drinking but at the time I figured she would grow out of it. I always knew in my head that getting drunk and the bar scene was temporary. Family would replace all of that. Now I'm starting all over...