My ex-AH always drank too much, but we were young and I did too sometimes. I can see now, in hindsight though, that he was always obsessed with where the drinks were when we went out, etc. Our first trip together we drove from Portland to San Francisco in a day. We got there in the evening and I was hungry and tired. He made me go to three different restaurants until we found one that served a "fine ale", not just cheap Bud or Miller. I was angry at the time, but let it go. There were a lot of incidents like that in our first years together, but I still didn't see the alcoholic craziness that was to come.
Even last night, I was looking at pictures of us in 2007 and thinking I can't believe that I was happy with him that recently. In 2007 I would have never in a million years thought I would be a divorced single mom of two in 2011.