I hope you can give him and his consequences to your HP. Do you attend Alanon ? I was obsessed with my XAH and a friend looked at me and said "he isn't your business anymore." After I got over being pissed off at that comment I realized she was right. It was messing up my serenity. If your son is in high school he probably runs into a little mj. I was as obsessed with the alcoholic/addict as he was with his drugs. Surrender to win. Let go and let God. Accept powerlessness.....