Karrie,
Don't feel bad, been there done that. I was even in the program (Al-anon, Nar-anon) two years ago and nothing that was said made any difference to me. It took me hitting a bottom before I decided maybe I had a problem. I have been co-dependent my whole adult life, I never realized it till I married an addict. I even told my AH that if I had of been aware of these issues in me and had worked on it years ago, I would have never dated and married him. There is a lot of emotions to work through! I cried a lot when I frist realized some things about myself. You have taken a big step, keep moving forward and never look back!