sojourner,
I understand where you are coming from and struggle with the same thing.
If it is an addicts first time through rehab and a mere 20-30 day program, is that really enough time to help them to understand where they'll end up later if they don't take advantage of sober living or something like that??? I mean 3+ rehabs later - yes, I can understand it being time to totally step back and let the addict plan their future or direct their outcome. But in the beginning? Would it be helpful if there were more involvement from family or friends? Who knows . . .