I know what you are talking about, and early on I felt that way. Being bold I caught my AS counselor (the one that understood my AS the best ever) out side for a smoke. he agreed to meet with us my W and I. we went in and that is when we learned we we just enabling and every thing he has done just gets destroyed by what we do after he gets out. We needed al-anon/nar-anon for us, and for our own recovery.
Rehab is a road that the A must travel alone. We are part of why they fail because to them we are just a tool they use to use. They must want R for themselves, and they must work the program.