thanks mike...
additional details... i am in the same town as my mom. my siblings and their families will be going to her house. my kids are used to going there too and are looking fwd to seeing their uncles/aunts and cousin. i don't know how to explain why we aren't doing that. and i feel guilty that bc i don't want to deal with my foo, i am keeping my kids from people that they enjoy being with.
a part of me feels like i need to suck it up and go for a bit so that the girls can be with family-- they don't have to have the same issues with my family that i do, you know? i just am not good at faking it and have no desire personally to be with my family...
now is when i wish i didn't live geographically near my foo. it would make this easier right now.