December2011: Others give very thoughtful input and support.
I believe you must think of yourself first. Your safety and well being are very much worth the difficult choice to put him out on his own and on the way to facing his demons.
I do understand how hard it is and, personally, it was very difficult for me to stick to my guns/follow through when our son was banned from our house and then later when we decided to let the police take him to jail for breaking into our house when he was not allowed here. In hindsight, it did make a difference and established better boundaries. Things are far from perfect now, but at least we are no longer prisoners in our own home and have started to lead more of a normal (if there is such a thing, lol) life.
I hope you will find outside support that is helpful to you and that you keep coming back to this site. We do care and understand.
Last edited by Anaya; 10-30-2011 at 10:01 AM.
Reason: repeating myself, etc.