Yeah, I'm with Mike too, but it took time to get there. I went through a stage of "I'm going to have a glass of wine if I want to dangit because I'm not the one who has a problem with alcohol" and a stage of "I'm not allowing alcohol in my home because it's a debilitating disgusting drug that I will have no association with" and probably several other stages that I didn't identify...
... but I've gotten to a place where alcohol is... sort of just there. I rarely drink, but I don't deliberately NOT drink, if that makes sense. If I want a glass of wine instead of my usual Diet Coke, I'll have one, just like if I feel like ordering the BLT instead of the turkey sandwich, I will.
For me, it all came with recovery and detachment and the realization that Mike talked about -- that it wasn't about the alcohol, it was about the addict.
But somehow, I feel like it might be more than one degree harder when it's your child instead of your spouse.
