One of my biggest problems is concentration... and what I'd love to do is just blame this all on having been in an drug/alcoholic relationship, but it's not that. It goes deeper, because I was into all the avoiding before I ever met him.
At this point, I look at the opportunities I had to leave him earlier, I look at professional opportunities I had while I was with him, or just simply a deficiency in concetration that could have given me the CLARITY to advance myself earlier.
With all the I (haven't) done, you'd swear I was the one with an addiction, but I barely drink a beer a month. I just WASTE time, and spend what other time I have too scared and too insecure to get what I want.