Yeah it makes perfect "sense" in the dysfunctional, alcoholic family sort of way, that she'd behave this way-- I guess I gave her more credit than I should have. Thought that after seeing her H destroy his life, abuse his wife, and his kids, she'd want her own son to have a better life and might not enable him... But to leave denial land would mean having to look at her role and that must be too painful. It's kind of tragic for them all. I hope somewhere down the line the cycle gets broken. AH has a sister who has a son (we have 2 girls) so maybe he'll be the male in the family who breaks the cycle... Who knows.