I am just starting to realize how much I am willing to be the one with the "problem" in a relationship.
If I am the one with the problem then I can "work" on it.
I suspect this is part of my issues with boundaries. It is so freeing to start to realize that I am not the only problem. At the same time in all honesty I am starting to get pretty mad (at me, at him, and MIL and others involved). To me for taking that on, for everyone else (most in no way in recovery) for letting me, and believing that too. It is not as simple as that but....
I am grateful to recognize it. Recognizing it is a beginning and way far ahead of where I was before.