I am so much less concerned with wanting my stbx mil to understand that I am no the evil person she believes me to be... There was a time not too long ago where I'd call her to try and plead my case and tell her the kind of person I am. That was insane.
Now it's that I just really don't want her issues to be a part of my life anymore. More than wanting to be right I am just plain annoyed that I answered the phone and listened for more than .1 seconds to her crap.
She can believe whatever she wants and I am not going to pretend that I am able to listen to it and not be upset. So my solution that I should have put into place years ago is 100% NC. I gave her the benefit of the doubt that she was calling her granddaughters and I answered. I should have known better. And now I do!