For me my RAH wanted me to go...he still has his moments where I get home and hear "well I couldn't go do...because you were at a meeting"
I just remind him it's MY night. Whether I go to a meeting, go hang w/ friends or whatever it's MINE.
I am very honest about where I'm going though. I'm a big believer in that if you lie and get caught it makes them doubt all the truths you tell too. Not to mention...Alcoholics are a very paranoid bunch and on top of everything else I don't want my A to think i've got a bf somewhere or something equally as sleazy..even though he knows me better than that. Alchohol makes there thinking distorted...even in recovery sometimes.
On that note...I won't accept lies from him either. I ask questions if I'm not sure if he's being honest...usually the truth comes out. Sometimes I just don't want to know.