I have been accused of controlling and repressing my partner by her daughter 'C' who was visiting. What really made me angry was the fact that C had little or no experience of the crazy behaviour myself and our daughters had been subjected to. She ought to have known better, because her mother had visited her on several occasions and been drunk during the visit. But what this really points to is how manipulative the A can be, I hear it quite often-telling tales about my wickedness, but I'm past worrying about that aspect of things. So your A did a good job on his mother!