Leaping,
I'm sending you good thoughts. It sounds like you're doing a great job with a challenging situation. I like what was said about saving the texts, they could be valuable as you move forward.
It strikes me how narcissistic your STBX sounds: ...doesn't need an attorney because he is one, and thinks he's smarter than everyone else...
I know that narcissism is a part of alcoholism but geez, it's a challenge to deal with.
Hang in there~
posie