Yellowbirdy, ((((hugs)))). You are in the right place to share and vent, we know what you are going through and how tuff it is. Just remember, this too shall pass. Your recovery is showing and that is good. Nothing much you can do about your family, they don't know what you are going through. As for your boss, (bunch of bad words!!) Don't worry about her. In my experience I found that as I progressed in my recovery the tools I was getting from al-anon worked very well at work also. As I became more centered and serene my job performance went up as well. I don't get near as bothered about stuff as I used to and find it easier to focus and stay on track.
Good luck with all that as going on and vent here as much as you like.
Your friend,