I hear ya shawty. My soon to be Xah is already out shopping for a new house. We havent even sold the one we own now. He told me the price range he's shopping in and its a lot higher than what I can afford/was considering. I was initially hurt and jealous... and then I remembered... his life isn't my business anymore. I'm free to live my life and so is he. I think my AH is nuts to be shopping for a house 1) before we've sold this one and 2) resolved assets/liability/child support ... but I keep my mouth shut.
What helps me most is gratitude. I'm grateful to see clearly. Grateful I am in recovery. Grateful that I have good financial sense for myself. And really grateful that I'm getting a divorce and freeing myself from this anchor around my neck.
Focus back on yourself... and this too shall pass. Embrace your freedom.
Shannon