"I've been going to naranon and have started thinking about and working on my codependency issues (though I have yet to pick up that book). I'm having a hard time separating boundaries and ultimatums, healthy help and unhealthy control," -Thunderwood
I do not know how to quote someone else's message, so sorry. Anyhow, I feel exactly the same as Thunderwood above, I feel like I need about 1 year's worth of recovery for myself to even be trying to deal with these decisions because I don't know what is helping and what is just being a caring wife, or what is trying to control. He is my husband after all. We have been married 14 years and regardless of where we are right now, it would be wonderful if it could be 'fixed.' I feel like I can't read Co Dependent NO More fast enough and I know I need to do the exercises, but even those feel a bit overwhelming.