You are doing good!!!! Your recovery is showing.
His 'medical' problems are his, a consequence of his actions (drinking). Remember you
are not responsible for him, he is a big boy.
You have also, I M H O done the proper thing with your children, allowing them to be
adults and make their own boundaries. Just being there for them, when they get
frustrated, and they will.
Alcoholism is PROGRESSIVE and he and you and the children are now starting to see
some of the progression.
Sending prayers for you and your children.
Also saying a prayer that H's HP guides him to recovery in HP's time, not ours.
Love and hugs,