Wow. I'd like to say that I am shocked by what you said your stbxah is doing but honestly, it sounds like behavior I'd expect from my own stbxah & that's kind of shocking isn't it, that creepy/stalker/sicko behavior doesn't shock me?
In any event, you ROCK, TuffGirl. Good for you for your post and for staying put. He has no power over you and you are strong and amazing!