...at this point I'm a little protective you those of you I've been on here with for awhile. You are way nicer than me Bobby!
It's a sore subject for me because wife's family used to say **** like that which now sounds so moronic to me I can barely listen to it. I'd tell them to mind their own business and they would say it is their business because she's their (wife, daughter, friend, cousin, etc.).
They made things worse for a long, long time because when I stopped enabling they just picked up the slack.
AAAAAGH!
Cyranoak
Originally Posted by
BobbyJ Oh! Cyranoak, I need to hang out with for a week or two!...Kind of like SR bootcamp! LOL....
Well, I believe his intentions were good. He is just very un-educated in the diesase.
This is how I answered it: There are no inscentives, no prizes, no guarantess.
He is the only one who can help himself and find recovery & get sober.
I cant make the fat man go the gym and exercise everyday & get skinny, just like I cant
make my drunk x husband get sober today..Get my point?
This what it did to me: It laid on the guilt trip. It made me sad. It made me
frustrated that no one on the outside understands. It made me wonder if I did
everything that I could of, should of, would of, possibly could of done.
..It played with my head.
What did I learn: To not put myself in that position again. To not let those
feelings of guilt attack me and hold me to the ground. To get knocked in the head
once again is not a good feeling. I have to remember, a year ago, I was as dumb
as my friend....
So, it was a good lesson. Hard. But Good....