I don't really have anything to add. I did like the meetings right away and I've liked all the different ones I've attended. Some a bit more than others but I have liked them all. I didn't ever lie to AH about attending but I did attend ones that were held during lunchtime so that he didn't really have to know. I'd just go during lunch at work. He knows I'm going now.
I do like to stress to anyone that asks about Al-anon that it is a group for people who have been affected by someone else's drinking (or drug use - we don't have Narc-anon here). I think it's very common for people to be offended because they feel like we are labeling them. My husband may or may not be an addict but I certainly have been affected by his use.