Im new here too. I left my husband of 25 years 3 months ago. We have 3 daughters only one a minor. She stays at each house half the time. AH stopped drinking 2 weekes ago but thinks he can do it on his own. Been down that road before. I told him I was going to start Ala-non all he can do is put me down and say I should have done it before I left. I am not talking to him that much because when I do He just has something mean to say. Everything that went wrong in our marriage was my fault too. Must be nice to think you do no worng. I just started working on me. Man its going to alot of work. I can do it.