Justfor1 - Thankyou for explaining. Maybe the term recovery is used with him as the clinic he left believe he is seeking sobriety, its what he says he is doing, but these are just little slip ups as he has cravings. But i know he still wants to drink, he said being told he cant have something makes him want it more. If he was 'allowed' to have a glass of wine now and again, he'd be happy with that. And that he has learnt tools to control it...which i know is ridiculous after doing 2 weeks of a detox and part of step 1! I think he is in denial still and trying to talk me round so that he can continue to drink and keep me and my daughter with him. I believe he thinks he can control it, so he doesnt fear losing his family again. But as everyone who has gone through this tells me, this generally does not happen!