Originally Posted by
BobbyJ 
I was trying to be nice and hold his valuable toys, until he decided to ever get
sober and come home and get them.
My choices are: To be nice, fall apart & continue to be on a rapid weight lose program in the midst of a hurricane...
Or sell his crap, pay the phone blockage bill and buy some grocerys & eat in peace!
So next time, I post one of these bad days, someone kick me in the butt please!!!
Hugs! I know there are some who think that stopping what we call being nice, which I suppose is really hope/enabling/codepedency should be as simple as "just stop" but I know it's not. You've probably done this your whole life with more than just him and you've got to be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to figure it out.
I've been emailing myself posts/journal writings from when I am most upset so that I can find and read them when I am inclined to try and "be nice" to AH. Maybe it's a little masochistic but it works for me.
I'm sorry you're hurting and I'm sorry for all the loss you;re feeling. It's unfair and it sucks.