Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I think I'm going to tell him I'll move out with the girls and go to my mom's which is the only other option. She's severely mentally ill and I am more scared to leave the girls with her than with AH but that's it for options. When he knows he can be in the house I imagine his victimhood bs will end. And I guess I need to apply for a new credit card and pay the retainer on that... This is a nightmare.
But these very well may be the steps that end your nightmare.
I found confidence and strength when I took my power back and did things for myself/children without having to consider the alcoholic.
I left my AH the house/debt/mortgage. He lost it all.
It has been 2 1/2 years since I left that marriage and that home. Today our home is a place of love and mutual respect. We are healthy. For that I am grateful.
Hoping you find your path too