I can honestly say...I REALLY do care about my stbxah, but to say I love him for who he is...I can say I don't. I loved what I thought he could be....what I wished him to be, but I could not love who he is, or how he is. I don't really think I believe it is possible to love some who caused me this much pain. I think for me at least I feel in to that abuse-attachment circle that I have read about. I wish him the best...>I REALLY do, but I will hope and wish for him from afar.