Alone22 hit it on the head.
We go out and have lots of fun.
We've met w/ other AA couples for a family game night...it's lots of fun (even if at first mention i would rather have stuck a fork in my eye)..and it included the kids.
We've gone to bbq's.
Concerts, movies, dinner out...
we've even gone to bars...to watch a fight on ppv or to watch a band.. (I wouldn't recomend this so early...but later it's an option if she feels she can deal).