Originally Posted by
cynical one 
A new broom sweeps clean. It's probably a fairly new relationship where he's on his best behavior while he reels her in. Most drunks and druggies can be so over-the-top charming, witty, and funny...for a little while. This is what I call the "pretend guy". The "pretend guy" is who we fall for. Then "real guy" emerges and we spend months, years, decades waiting and wanting the fantasy of who we thought they were, who we want them to be to return.
Oh baby does this bring back a memory. My XAH transformed on our wedding day. I deliberately sought his profile on Facebook and YouTube so I could block him before he found me. I still have layers of security and protection and use a pseudonym (to keep private from him and a couple of others).
While on YouTube, I peeked in on some videos he was doing. He's become a strong proponent for athiesm and his new woman seems supportive of that. She calls herself a positivist and he calls himself a redneck. She seems like a nice lady. I would not want any other being to go through with him the hell that I went through with him. So I prayed for her. They seem happy. She may very well be a better woman FOR HIM than I was. Maybe losing me helped him straighten out. I believe if I'd stayed he would have had no reason to straighten out. Either way, getting away from him was the best thing I ever did in my life. If I could go back and change one thing, I never would have met him. I don't have the choice to change that, so I do my best to keep it from affecting me now.
As I was blocking him, I found two videos that made me realize he is not recovering. In one, he is shooting video of her playing a TV video game. He zooms in-and-out-and in-and-out on a large near-empty bottle of tequila on the table and I could see marijuana devices in the background. I wonder if he still pees the bed?
My answer to your original question is - I don't know...and after the little peek I got, I've decided to just stay out of the way and try to forget I ever went through that kind of hell.
If he's treating her better - fine, live and let live.
If not, she's either going to put up with it, or not. I can't decide for her.