Originally Posted by
hydrogirl 
Unfortunately, we all have a tendency to believe we are unique. How often does the story of some friend or family member of an alcoholic ring true? How often do you find yourself saying "Yep, I tried that too. Didn't work for me either." when reading someone else's story.
Our firm belief that "we are unique" or that "our relationship with our addicted love one is special" is often why it takes soooooo long for us to learn new ways to protect ourselves and to relate to our loved ones.
Hugs, HG
This is very true. If I hear or read of some young woman (could be a guy, of course) talking about her bf who "drinks too much" and then does and says things that hurt her badly, qualifying it with how nice/kind/funny/compassionate/SPECIAL a person he USUALLY is...I have no patience.
No, dear, he knows how to ACT that way to win you over, but he's not really a nice guy. At all. And he's not special. He is an alcoholic.