Originally Posted by
cynical one 
A new broom sweeps clean. It's probably a fairly new relationship where he's on his best behavior while he reels her in. Most drunks and druggies can be so over-the-top charming, witty, and funny...for a little while. This is what I call the "pretend guy". The "pretend guy" is who we fall for. Then "real guy" emerges and we spend months, years, decades waiting and wanting the fantasy of who we thought they were, who we want them to be to return.
What a wonderful Post:
You explained my exabf to a "T" at first he was all of that, charming but underneath all that was pure ugliness and it rose to the surface... I'm so glad I set myself free of that..
Thank You for reminding me of that.