What I am doing with my RAW is this. Currently we are separated, I am focusing on my recovery, she seems to be focusing on hers. I have no intention of even thinking about the relationship until I am ready. Until then I will simply be patient. I am not going to force it and if it doesn't happen that's ok as well. We have just started to do things together and at this point that is good enough. I have no idea of what our future relationship will be and that's OK too. It took 15 years of her being an alcoholic before I could leave and it will take as long as it takes for whatever is going to happen to happen.
Your friend,