I started takng anti-anxiety meds about 3 months ago and am glad i did. I was feeling overwhelmed, always anxious, not able to focus or concentrate at work, sad, frustrated at my RAH's slips, worried about work, and it all got too much. I went to my PCP, we had a good talk, he gave me a written test to see if I was depressed (I'm not clinically depressed), so he prescribed an anti-anxiety med. Since them, I'm calmer, things roll off my back, I feel like my old self, and when a slip happens, I go to the tools I learn in Al-Anon. As part of my RAH's program, we do a family session once a week, I can vent there. My RAH is somewhat dedicated to his recovery, but he slips. They work with him on his triggers and prescribe meds that deal with the triggers. I used to take OTC sleep aids, since these meds, I've never slept better in my life.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do and God Bless!