Marie.....
I wish I had a dollar for every time someone new comes on board and says "He's/she's Different", "When he/she is not drinking/drugging he/she is a wonderful caring person", "He/she only abuses me when he/she is drinking/drugging".
The truth is they are all cut from the same mold, they all do and say basically all the same things. While drinking/drugging might magnify their personal issue, they are still there whether they drink or not, it is part of their personality.I think Marie is right, they have a book!