Analyzing everything has gotten me into lots of trouble with this kind of thing. I do not internalize these type situations anymore.
I used to do this all the time. Always ready to make it about me and taking blame, whether it was laid on me or not. I used to do it with my AH and just about everyone else in my life too!
Learning to detach from chaos and to only take blame that actually belongs to me has been one of Alanon's greatest gifts.